Your Next Step

The best navigation system will be of little value if not used. It is up to you to take the next step—to make the conversation actually happen. Here are some final tips to get you on your way!

Conversation Starters

The best way to start any conversation is with questions. Choose an open-ended question, that way you don’t get a simple “Yes” or “No.” Here are some of our favorites:

  • What do you think we should do about abortion?
  • What do you think the Bible says we should do for orphans?
  • What do you think it means to love as Jesus loved?
  • What would you do if over 2,000 toddlers were purposefully killed today?

What to Do

Questions are a powerful tool. In addition to starting conversations, questions can…

Questions show people you’re interested in them and their ideas. This is important for establishing the tone of a conversation instead of a sermon.

When ideas are vague, misunderstandings abound. Ask questions to clarify what the other person means. For example, if someone says “I think holding signs with dead babies on it is unloving,” ask, “Unloving toward whom?”

For example, if someone says, “I think pro-life activism turns people off of the movement,” they’ve assumed that our primary goal should be to get people to join the movement. Ask, “Which is more important: what people think about abortion or what they think about pro-lifers?”

Stories are another powerful tool. They can…

Our team loves to tell stories of heroes from history who saved human lives. Share the story of Nicholas Winton, Irena Sendler, Corrie ten Boom, or many others to stir people to action.

The fastest and most effective way to reach someone is with photographic evidence of abortion. This also allows victims of abortion to testify visually.

Download pictures from our gallery. Order handouts from our store.

Admit when you don’t know the answer. Tell them you’ll look into it and get back with them. Check out our Questions About Abortion and Questions About Created Equal. If it’s not there, contact us and we’ll help you.

Many today have forgotten how conversations work. Step back occasionally to narrate for both of you what has taken place so far. This will help maintain focus.

For example, if you find yourself suddenly spending great energy discussing partisan politics, pause and say, “When we started, we agreed we both oppose abortion and that we want to do something about it. But now we’re debating the best candidate for President of the United States. Let’s get back on track. Do you think pro-life outreach would be the right thing to do?”

What Not to Do

No matter how well or little you know someone, their position on abortion might surprise you. Don’t start with, “Why are you pro-choice or pro-life?” Let them speak for themselves.

The label someone uses (“pro-life” or “pro-choice”) matters far less than what they actually think about preborn babies and abortion.

If someone says, “I’m pro-life,” don’t just say, “That’s great!” Instead, press further. Ask: “So, do you think abortion is wrong in every situation?”

Even if you’re navigating properly, it won’t help if you get to the right destination but leave the other person behind. After making a point, ask for feedback: “Do you agree? What do you think?”

It’s important to know how to start conversations. And, we have to know when and how to end them, too.

If you’re going in circles, find a way to summarize the conversation. For example, you might say, “I’ve really enjoyed connecting with you, even though we do not see eye to eye on the best way to respond to abortion. Even if we serve differently, let’s commit to honoring God and defending preborn babies while also supporting each other in our various strategies.”

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