Your Conversation Navigator

This guide will help you navigate conversation with pointers of what to say and how to say it. But it is up to you to work it into a natural dialogue.

Conversations require at least two people. That means you have two different stories, possibly two different worldviews, and plenty of opportunities for confusion. But meaningful dialogue is still possible. Our team creates it every day, and so can you.

Click through the navigator below. Then hit “continue” to start the conversation.

Know the Case and Your Place

Keep these in mind.

To be effective, dialogue must be well-informed. Revisit for yourself why abortion is wrong:

  1. It is wrong to intentionally kill innocent human beings.
  2. Elective abortion intentionally kills innocent human beings.
  3. Therefore, elective abortion is wrong.

Sometimes pro-life people get sidetracked from this, instead focusing on related issues, such as how abortion affects mothers. Jay Watts provides a helpful reminder: There is a difference between why abortion is wrong and what’s wrong with abortion. There are many things that are wrong with elective abortion—such as how it affects family members—but there is one objective reason abortion is wrong. Abortion is wrong because it intentionally kills innocent humans.

Recall Hebrews 11:17: "Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you."

Do not berate your leader or usurp authority. Be an encouragement as you share your concern for babies and interest in the church's response.

Bring Photos

Good navigation requires good tools. To call others to action, start with pictures of the victims you want to help. 

Say, “You and I might have a lot to say about abortion, but this isn’t our story. It’s really about the actual people killed by abortion. They can’t speak, but they can tell their stories visually. I’d like to show them to you.”

download pictures from our gallery. Order handouts from our store.

Ask, “Have you seen pictures of Jewish Holocaust victims or people brutalized by American human slavery? If so, why not also look at pictures of innocent people being killed today?”

Read more about the importance of abortion victim photos in our online questions.

Discuss Your End Goal

To activate your church body, start a local outreach team from within the church. But don’t ask your busy church leader to do the hard work. Instead, ask for their blessing and support as you do the heavy lifting.

Say, “I want to begin an outreach team to change how people think and feel about abortion. This will allow us to save babies and help their parents even while abortion remains legal. Do you have any concerns about me recruiting and leading a team from within the church?”

Pro-life events where the audience comes to you are valuable, but they usually attract those either strongly pro-life or pro-choice. To change people’s opinion, you need to meet people who are open-minded. So, you must go to the public. 

Examples of places your outreach team will go: college campuses and downtown squares.

You can have public conversations about abortion without showing pictures, but that is an incomplete presentation of the evidence. 

Photos of injustice have long been used by human rights defenders because they stir the conscience and convey the true nature of injustice in one glance. 

So your outreach should include pictures of both preborn babies growing in the womb and aborted babies. Go to the Created Equal store to get signs of both

Remember: You and your outreach team are whistleblowers. The task of a whistleblower is to put a spotlight on the victims of injustice, to give them a podium. The victims of abortion can’t speak, but when you let them be seen, they share their stories visually.

Displaying photos in public, your team’s goal will be to engage passersby in dialogue. As people see how bad abortion is and discuss their views with you, many will change their minds from supporting to opposing abortion. 

To give an idea of what this looks like, share videos of Created Equal’s outreach. Also check out our Conversation Navigator focused on speaking with people who support abortion. And consider inviting a Created Equal team member to train your team, whether in person or remotely, so that you can confidently defend the humanity of preborn children and the equality of all human beings.

explain that these goals are not mutually exclusive. Tell them about the Created Equal team, which counsels women and men going into abortion facilities as part of our public outreach.

explain that these goals are not mutually exclusive. As public opinion changes, so, too, will the makeup of elected leaders.

Say, “What if we lived during the eras of American human slavery or the Jewish Holocaust? Wouldn’t it be our responsibility to try to change people’s opinions on those injustices?”

Ephesians 5:11: “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.” Abortion is a deed of darkness. Public outreach exposes it.

Proverbs 24:11-12: “Rescue those being led away to death; hold back those staggering toward slaughter. If you say, ‘But we knew nothing about this,’ does not he who weighs the heart perceive it?” If public outreach can rescue those being led to death, isn’t that a good thing?

remind them that you are committed to doing all of the communication and logistics. Their input and guidance, as the spiritual leader of the congregation, will always be welcome, but you're not asking them to run a program.

Follow Their Ideas

Sometimes you will have to take a detour. When leaders are uncomfortable with outreach, you need to explore why this is the case. Take the time to understand  and respond to their concerns.

Here are some common ones you may hear.

Say, “I agree that we don’t want to equate any issue with the Gospel.”

Then say, “But consider what Jesus said in the Great Commission: ‘Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you.’ (Mt 28:19-20a)”

Continue, “Among the commandments Christ gave was to care for neighbors in need ( Lk 10:25-37). We’re supposed to teach others to observe this commandment. How can we do that if we ignore our preborn neighbors in desperate need?”

Add, “There are many biblical passages commanding us to help those in need (Prov 24:11-12; Js 1:27; I Jn 3:16-18). We follow these today by helping preborn babies. That’s not a distraction from the Gospel. It’s living out the truths of the Bible.”

Say, “You’re right. You can have a pro-life worldview while living inconsistently with it. But do you think it’s a good thing to live inconsistently with our moral principles?”

Continue, “Imagine we went back to the days of human slavery in America. Let’s say we knew two people who both opposed slavery. One was an underground railroad conductor, actively bringing slaves to freedom. The other opposed slavery in his mind but took no action to oppose it. Are these morally equivalent? If not, which one should we try to follow?”

This is an attack on people rather than their ideas (an ad hominem logical fallacy). Even if it were true, it would be irrelevant to the question of whether we should engage in pro-life efforts.

Say, “What if I introduced you to pro-life activists who are not mean? Would that change your mind?”

tell them about Created Equal. Show them our videos.

respond, “Then it seems the issue isn’t really whether pro-life activists are mean. There’s another reason you don’t want to do pro-life outreach. Can you explain?”

Watch Out for Pitfalls

Once you get into a conversation about launching pro-life outreach, there are some common objections you might face.

Respond, “If people are upset by our outreach, we have to ask why that is.”

Continue, “If they’re upset because we were rude to them, that’s a problem. But if they’re upset because they see pictures of abortion, then it is not us but abortion itself which upsets them. We can control how we treat people, but we cannot make killing babies unoffensive.”

Share videos of Created Equal’s outreach as a model of sharing hard truths in a respectful manner.

Say, “I agree it could be hard for those who’ve had abortions to see our signs, but the signs aren’t the source of the pain. They’re reminders of the actual problem: the past abortion. We can help these people with our outreach.”

Continue, “People who’ve had abortions also sometimes feel pain when they see pregnant people or hear a sound similar to an abortion suction machine. What we need to do is help these people so that when they encounter these reminders of the pain, they can respond in a healthy way.”

Explain, “To do that, we will share the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Abortion is wrong, but God’s grace is greater. We can also direct people to ministries helping parents after abortion.”

Say, “We won’t target areas with children, like daycares. Still, you’re right. Some children may be in the public areas we go to.”

Continue, “However, it is not certain that those kids will be upset by what they see. But I am sure that if we allow abortion to be covered up by not doing public outreach, preborn babies will die. It seems to me the certain death of preborn kids takes priority over the potentially hurt feelings of born kids.”

Say, “We do want to turn people off—off of abortion. It would be great if people who met us joined our group and the pro-life movement, but what matters more is what they think and how they feel about abortion itself after they encounter our outreach.”

Continue, “If they leave with a more negative view of abortion than they had before they encountered our outreach, that is success.” Share with them Dr. Jacqueline Harvey’s statistical analysis demonstrating this is the case with pro-life outreach using abortion victim photography.