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When someone you care for has had an abortion, conversation can be difficult. However, unaddressed pain can fester. Your willingness to talk may be the very thing that points to authentic healing.
We can help you know generally what to say and how to say it, but remember that the story of the mother with whom you’re talking is unique. That does not change whether abortion is okay, but it does mean there might be unresolved personal issues which need attention. As part of your conversation, consider also recommending spiritual counsel.
Click through the navigator below. Then hit “continue” to start the conversation.
Know Why Abortion is Wrong
While the abortion is in the past, many women go on to have multiple abortions. Thus, even though you’ll start with consequences from the abortion, eventually you’ll want to address morality to save future babies and direct the mother to spiritual healing. You will thus need clarity for yourself on why abortion is wrong. Here’s a summary in three short lines:
- It is wrong to intentionally kill innocent human beings.
- Elective abortion intentionally kills innocent human beings.
- Therefore, elective abortion is wrong.
This will help when you get to the discussion on “the bad news” below. Even if the person you’re talking with does not recognize any harm from her abortion, there are spiritual consequences to resolve.
Start with Today
To find out how to focus the conversation, begin with how she feels about the past abortion. Ask, “How are you doing today?”
Point to Truth
Suggest Further Help
Say, “I want to continue talking and helping you in any way I can. Did you know there are also additional resources specifically designed for people with your story? I’d be happy to connect you, if you’re interested.”